Gracefully Letting Go | Understanding The Energy Dynamics of Intimate Relationship

I want to share something with you that I wish I could have learned much earlier in life in regards to relationship dynamics. Particularly intimate relationships. And when I say intimate I’m not necessarily referring to physical intimacy.

I am though referring to the intimacy of the heart space. The sacred space within us that we willingly or even sometimes unwillingly allow others access to. 

We are naked here in the core of this holy heart space. Fully clothed on the outer but into the innocence of our innermost being we or sometimes fate itself opens the door for another to enter. And we trust, as best we can, that they too have already or might soon open their own door for us as well. We trust that they will tread softly upon our wounds both healed and unhealed, as we pray that by grace we are able to grant them the same compassionate care. 

Scars… we all have them. Some are more glaring than others. But we have all been wounded at some time or another by the careless hands of humanness. Scars…. beautiful scars, of where we’ve healed from betrayal, from abandonment, from rejection, from abuse, and some from atrocities even as yet unspeakable.

All wounds from other humans that too were likely wounded themselves in similar ways. For we know that hurt is cyclic and ripples out if unhealed.

Very often the toughest decision you will ever make is to walk away from someone or a relationship not because you don’t love them anymore but because you finally… through grace and more often than not deep pain and suffering, glean the inspired insight that is the requirement to be set free. You finally “get” the energy dynamics of the relationship. You will know the truth and this truth will set you free.

It’s all energy dynamics you see. Something in or about this relationship or person has hooked you for one reason or the other. Else your suffering and dissatisfaction would have naturally propelled you away by now.

Vilifying the other will never bring you true freedom. Not entirely. As they too are wounded themselves and making them wrong or “bad” in many cases will only serve to bind you to the very things you wish to move past. 

If you are in a place where you KNOW it’s past time to let go. You might wish to pray for clarity and insight into what keeps you hooked and plugged into the relationship or the other. What payoff or benefit are you getting by remaining allowing the other access to this sacred heart space of yours? 

There’s always a payoff. The question when you know what it is… simply becomes this: Is it worth the price I’m paying? Sometimes it’s a satisfactory trade off as life and relationship is full of both give and take. Other times you will KNOW you have sold your soul for crumbs.