On Intuitive Boundary Setting, Shame & Shaming
I was first introduced to the profound works of Dr. David R. Hawkins around 2004 by Dr. Wayne W. Wayne Dyer whom I met personally in Savannah, Georgia and had followed since I was 17 years old.
Dr. Hawkins developed a scale of consciousness, also known as the “Map of Consciousness,” which ranges from 0 to 1000. This scale is based on his research and work with kinesiology and muscle testing, and it assigns different emotional and mental states to specific numerical values. Here’s a simplified version of the scale:
From Lowest To Highest States of Operational Consciousness
- Shame (20) – The lowest level of consciousness, characterized by self-loathing and worthlessness.
- Guilt (30) – A feeling of remorse and self-blame.
- Apathy (50) – A state of indifference and lack of interest or motivation.
- Grief (75) – The emotion experienced when dealing with significant loss or sadness.
- Fear (100) – The feeling of anxiety and worry about potential negative outcomes.
- Desire (125) – The state of craving or longing for something.
- Anger (150) – A state of irritation and frustration.
- Pride (175) – A sense of self-worth and confidence.
- Courage (200) – The willingness to confront and overcome challenges.
- Neutrality (250) – A state of inner peace and non-attachment.
- Willingness (310) – A sense of open-mindedness and receptivity.
- Acceptance (350) – Embracing life with a positive attitude.
- Reason (400) – A state of rational thinking and understanding.
- Love (500) – Unconditional love and compassion.
- Joy (540) – A state of ecstasy and deep happiness.
- Peace (600) – Profound inner peace and enlightenment.
- Enlightenment (700-1000) – The highest levels of human consciousness, representing a state of oneness and pure awareness.
This is a simplified version of the scale, and Dr. Hawkins’ work goes into much greater detail about the different emotions and levels of consciousness associated with specific numerical values. This article (containing Hawkins’ Scale of Consciousness) should serve as a reference point for those unfamiliar with the scale of consciousness in my upcoming talks, posts and videos through the remainder of 2023.
I have found no other teacher nor more accurate, authentic representation of consciousness levels explained as Hawkins’ works have done. Although spirituality is quite nonlinear in nature the scale simplifies in linear form the ineffable truth of consciousness quantified in measurement.
Shame & Shaming – Intuitive Boundary Setting
Shame is such a low vibrational energy. VERY. We only need to recall the first time we were shamed by our parents, peers or bullies as children. The “feel” of shame is disgusting. If accepted as being true, it cripples and paralyzes us on an operational level.
Upon close examination this “stifling of behavior” is exactly what those who use it hope to achieve. It is a weak unethical powerplay often exerted by those who were also shamed and who lack authentic communication skills to address behaviors in others that one finds unacceptable.
The ensuing emotional state that is very often experienced by those who are deeply shamed as children or adults is self-loathing and feelings of worthlessness. It is a paralyzing and demoralizing emotion.
Even after years of therapy, psychoanalysis and other helpful modality applications, shame can still arise and operate internally. The voice of the shaming father, minister or peer evolves into our own internal voice of shame if not properly examined and released to grace to remove and heal.
Unhealed this mechanism of shame will also become our very own weapon (usually unconscious) to manipulate or modify the behavior of others. It is true that the shamed of yesterday become the bullies of today if not healed.
Once healed in oneself the shaming done by others will be very discernable. Very. One should have compassion and forgiveness for those who revert whether consciously or unconsciously to bullying and shaming. For we will know by our own transcendence of this low-vibrational behavior that it originates from a deeply wounded and unhealed psyche.
However one should not hesitate to quickly yet compassionately remove such a person’s access to them who operates on this level if it is acute and recurring. Contrary to popular spiritual misconceptions about tolerance and acceptance the one who shames repeatedly can and should be defied effectively, compassionately and powerfully if the intuitive need arises.
No contact is usually best after the removal. This is so because if gates are left often very often the powerplay of the bully is guilt (which is next up on the scale of consciousness ironically) but not by mistake.
I’ll cover more on the states of consciousness in my upcoming talks, posts, videos and articles the remainder of 2023, including guilt as it’s an interesting character indeed.